Once, after giving a presentation at a bookstore in Rome, I purchased a number of books to take back home to America with me, as it used to be difficult to find Italian language books back in the States. Later, on the train towards Napoli, I pulled out a book written by one of Italy’s most treasured authors in the area of psychospirituality. The book was Come Attraversare La Sofferenza e Uscirne Più Forti, by psychoanalyst and professor Dr. Valerio Albisetti. As I thumbed through the pages, one passage stood out, and unbeknownst to me, would have a profound life-affirming effect when I would soon be called upon to face one of the most difficult challenges I would ever have to confront: the sudden death of my beloved husband. The passage went like this:
Quando soffri,
Quando ti senti dolore
Quando ti senti ferito
Quando ti senti deluso
Quando ti senti confuso
Quando ti senti tradito
Quando ti senti perseguitato
Quando ti senti usato
Quando ti senti sfruttato
Quando ti senti manipolato
Quando ti senti deriso
Entra nel profondo del tuo CUORE.
Lì vi troverai l’energia, la Luce per poter continuare il tuo viaggio seppur faticoso, ma affascinante, unico e irrepetible, su questa terra.
When you suffer
When you feel sorrow
When you feel hurt
When you feel disappointed
When you feel confused
When you feel betrayed
When you feel persecuted
When you feel used
When you feel taken advantage of
When you feel manipulated
When you feel derided
Enter into the depths of your HEART.
There you will find the energy, the Light to be able to continue your journey– albeit tiring, but fascinating, unique, and unrepeatable—on this earth.
Researchers believe we become what we give our attention to. Albert Bandura, renowned for his theory on social modeling, knew that there was more to learning than just trial-and-error from direct experience. Each of us has a limited environment. We travel in narrow circles and within the confines of daily routines. Thus, much of our learning about “how to be in the world” comes vicariously—including from the materials we choose to read. In addition to reducing stress and cementing our moral guidelines, passage meditation can also help us to strengthen our spirituality.
Over the years I have chosen various passages upon which I meditate regularly for inner peace and inspiration; one of which is that of the aforementioned Dr. Albisetti, who is now a dear friend and colleague and who eventually bestowed me the honor of writing the preface to one of my books, Lemons into Limoncello.
If we do indeed become what we give our attention to, now may be the perfect time to bookmark some passages that inspire you, that give you courage, and that help you go to travel inwards to the depths of your own heart and rekindle that Light that shines from within you.
References/Further Reading:
Albisetti, Valerio (2005). Come Attraversare la Sofferenza e Uscirne Più Forti. Paoline Editoriale Libri, Milano http://www.valerioalbisetti.it